Scott had undiagnised ADHD and Asperger’s. He left England for New Zealand at 19 to try to build a new life for himself, but had to return after a few weeks as he was unable to settle. When he returned, he found his mother had moved away and was unable to accommodate him. His father did not have room for him either. Unable to manage on his own, Scott was eventually referred to SASH and has been in Supported Lodgings for 10 months.
I now have a diagnosis of ADHD and Asperger’s. But I don’t let it affect my whole life. It helps people to understand why I am how I am, so they don’t take me the wrong way.
I’m a very sociable person, so when I heard about living with a complete stranger I wasn’t scared. I stayed in Nightstop at first, and that helped me get an insight into what to expect. I enjoyed it. I thought they’re obviously nice enough people to let someone in their home. I would personally find it hard if someone else was coming into my home, but I think it’s really good that they give you that chance and open up their home to you.
When I first walked in here, I had a good feeling. I liked my host, I liked the way she was, the place is close to town. It didn’t take long to settle in.
I’ve been here 10 months now. I see my host as family. I know I can ask her things, like how to cook certain things, I know I could just turn to her. I cook pasta, pizzas, jacket potatoes – just normal meals.
I’ve learnt to budget. I know how much I need for shopping and for utilities so I make sure I put that aside. With food shopping I know if I need to be really careful money wise, so I would get stuff that lasts, like pasta, otherwise I get what I want.
I finished college before I went away, but while I’ve been in SASH I went to the Harrogate training centre and resat my maths and English. I’m attending the Prince’s Trust at the moment, doing team-building and employability skills.
If I hadn’t come into SASH, I don’t know what would have happened to me, because my mum couldn’t accommodate me, my dad couldn’t either. I did ask friends to stay with them but I felt bad, I don’t think I would have lasted in that lifestyle, I would have ended being on the streets. It was a very scary ordeal.
I honestly thought that if I was on the street my parents would just not like me, I think they’d feel they’d raised a failure. I know they know I have ADHD and Asperger’s, but I do think they’d have that reaction, because I hadn’t stepped up.
I’ve always been confused with the relationship I’ve had with my parents, There was a time when I first came back, we fell out over things that happened when I was a kid, but it doesn’t get to me as much now. I think my parents see me quite positively now, they are pretty happy with how I’ve turned out.
Looking back to how I was when I first came into SASH, I’m so different. I was always on edge, there was a lot going on at that time. This has given me time to think, to reflect, to improve myself, the chance to meet people, very nice people who have let me into their homes.
Now I’m more confident, more aware of what I want to do, of what I want to be. At the moment I’d like to be a bartender, because I want to travel as well and that will help job-wise. So now I’m pretty happy, pretty content.
I would recommend SASH to anyone who has nowhere to stay as it will develop you and help you grow as a person and give you a head start into getting on with everyday life. The main thing I’ve learnt is that there are nice people out there that will help you, that if you ask for the help you will get it.